I was just wondering how much this had happened to other students in all of the training….
I have found that the longer I train and the more I learn, the less I want to be in a confrontation or fight. But it seems that anytime someone finds out about my training the want to get in my face and ask or see what I will do if they try to attack or punch me. What is wrong with people? Has anyone come across this or do people just want to pick on the blonde?
All the time - there is another thread on this somewhere I will try to find it.
People are bizarre with those kinds of comments I think it is because they really don’t understand ...
ALL THE TIME DD! WHEN I WAS YOUNG IT DIDN’T REALLY BOTHER ME, HECK I WOULD GO AHEAD AND SHOW MY FREINDS. AS I GOT A BIT OLDER AND HAD TO START HURTING PEOPLE TO GET MY POINT ACROSS I STOPPED. I WOULD GET THIS COMMENT A LOT, THAT WON’T WORK. WELL NO, NOT WHEN IM TRYING TO SHOW YOU AND NOT HURT YOU. OK, WELL SHOW ME HOW IT IS SUPPOSED TO WORK. THEN I WOULD DO THE TECH. JUST AS IF I WAS BEING ATTACK…..NOT GOOD, FOR THEM. SO I DO NOT DO THIS ANYMORE.
Sometimes this happens to me, more often though someone who knows I train will say ” oh she’ll just kick your ?. When this happens I just say, no I won’t, I am really not good at it at all. I have never had anyone come back with show me, with that answer. I am sure with the wonderful training that I am being provided, I could protect myself, but I feel no need to flaunt it. When people at work ask me to spar, I tell them join Brandx and come on Friday nights.
When I meet new people, they shift to one side or the other once they’ve heard I’m involved in Self Defense. To my dissappointment, however, I’m usually given an apology rather than a confrontation. I am annoyed because people will give me special treatment if they hear I train. Self-proclaimed Tough Guys in the PQ/Poway area have done this without ever seeing action. People in Southeast SD too. Last night, an old friend of one of my roommates unexpectedly stopped by. I answered the door and he walked right past me to see my roommate. As the two hugged and began ‘catching-up’ excitedly, I decided the guy meant no disrespect. I forgot about it. My roomate mentioned that I train in Krav Maga. Later in the night the guy approached me and apologized. I thought for a second, remembered letting him in, then understood why he was apologizing. I told him not to worry about it because I didn’t feel disrespected. He continued to aplogize. I asked him to stop. He hid in another room. He asked my roommate to walk him to his car when he left. He didn’t say goodbye to me. I would have been happy to be friends. Oh well.
Yes, when people hear I train, they always want to see me “do something.” I respectfully decline. It used to bother me when people said,“oh that stuff would never work.” But it doesn’t anymore. I train so I can defend myself, not so I can tell guys I’m all tough and cool. So as long as I know it works, I don’t much care what they think.
Still… someday… I like to really kick someone’s A**, just to show the jerk I could. :wink:
This happened to me about two years ago- I won’t go into details but usually it is some insecure bully type who picks a social setting in which their attack on you is viewed as “messing around”, and your response would be viewed as “over the line”.
This set up is entirely intentional. Additionally I have noticed that after the person does this and you don’t respond (Because they would be bleeding if you did) they then take the opportunity to discourse on their superior knowledge of Self Defense
The worst case is when they do this on a young adult. True bullying at its worst.
Marla ?
